Nishall’s Blog: He is the man with the plan for 2015
News / Wed 31st Dec 2014 pm31 06:32pm
It’s that time time of the year again were we all decided to make New Year’s resolutions. I personally don’t make resolutions, as I believe they are normal goals. If you can believe you can do something during the year do it their and then, I don’t wait till the new year. But I do understand why people uphold the traditions of New Year’s resolutions.
It’s become popular for people to make fun of New Year’s resolutions in an almost gleeful way.
So yes, we want to change, but don’t know HOW to do it. So we do what’s easy, and what the media tells us to do: Make a New Year’s resolution!
Here’s why New Year’s resolutions fail:
They’re unspecific. We say “I want to get healthy this year” but when faced with the birthday parties in March, the overtime in June, and the family vacation in August, that goal falls by the wayside.
They’re unrealistic. “I want to go the gym 5x/week.” Really? You averaged twice a month last year. Setting unrealistic, highly aspirational goals is a quick way to guilt and failure.
They’re based on willpower, not systems. We say, “I want to walk more” instead of parking our car 10 minutes away. We say, “I want to stop messing around and go to sleep earlier” instead of testing different ways of falling asleep (like leaving our laptop in the other room, unplugging our TV, quietly covering our partner’s face with a pillow, etc). Hey, it’s a test.
But here’s the most haunting part of all…. Failing at our resolutions has implications…we start to distrust ourselves. If you’ve set the same resolutions for 5 years, and you never follow through, what makes you think you’ll be different this year?
And yet every year, we set yet another one (because that’s all we know), saying things like, “Ok, this year I’m going to buckle down” and “I’m gonna get serious about ____ this time,” but as we say it, in the back of our heads we KNOW we’re not actually going to do it.
Having a goal isn’t enough. We need a plan and a system. Maybe set your New Year’s resolutions in form of a SMART target, which will help to make your goals more reachable and realistic.
So good luck on your new year’s resolutions and have a phenomenal New Year, may it be filled with joy, prosperity, love and peace, and see you next year!